And they always will.

Life is never slowing. It's a constant shifting and tipping and pulling and pushing of everything. Waves of emotion crashing everywhere. Despair and prosperity rise and fall. And not one of us can say different. Life doesn't stop changing. Even if we declare we are in a rut, we are not. Things are still changing. Swiftly. Constantly. And they always will.
Many days I find myself wishing things would stay still for awhile. Slow down for a moment. But they never do. Let me breath, life. Please be a little gentler with me, life. But it never stops for me to catch my breath and it most certainly does not know how to be gentle.
And now life has shifted again. I feel as though I'm in some silly fun house at a county fair the kind with spinning spots on the floors and tipping rooms. Life has tipped me. It has sent me sliding and spilling across this life and into something new. New is exciting. Yet oddly familiar. And rather terrifying, but calming at the same time.
Things are still changing. Swiftly. Constantly. And they always will.

Need to know basis

Recently I have found myself whispering quiet little prayers to God. I've never been one to swear to anyone that I am certain of God existing, but as of late it is simply something I need to believe in. Something to give me peace. Something to keep me calm. For who would not like to believe that there is someone all powerful looking out for them. Hearing their prayers. And at times even answering them. I have never been able to understand religion and blind faith in anything and that  fact has been my downfall. My mind works very logically. It can not accept anything without understanding it. Understanding the motives. I need the why and who and where and when and how all answered before I can just accept anything. That fact seems to have been my downfall in relationships as well. For example, when I do something or make a decision I weigh everything. How will this affect me? Who else will it affect? How will it affect them? I consider everything and everyone, then I decide. Then I act. But it seems that most people do not work this way. Or at least most men do not. So they do something or make some comment or make some decision and when I ask why it's the same old "I dunno" from them all. Why did you not call to tell me you were gonna miss dinner by 2 hours? I dunno. Why did you say that? I dunno. It's infuriating. But what is more obnoxious is when someone wrongs me. I am more than willing to forgive. BUT with how my mind works, I would prefer to understand WHY you did whatever you did that hurt me, than to receive a generic apology. Why did you hurt me? Did you stop to think about how it would affect me? If not, why not? Now perhaps this is my own problem. Perhaps I expect too much from people because it is what I would do for them. But don't we all have those moments where we feel like we always care more about someone than they do about us. But regardless, that is where I am. I just want to understand. (I fear if I had been the first woman on earth, I would've fallen for Satan's tempting as Eve did. Know EVERYTHING?!? Awesome!!) I want to understand how people can just not think about their actions. But I fear I never will. So I wander about my day, whispering my little silent prayers to a God I can simply hope is up there and listening. Praying for patience and strength and the ability to forgive without having to understand everything. Praying to be able to trust people and if he has any to spare...maybe just a little bit of understanding.

Time Flies When You're Incredibly Busy

I can't believe it's already August. It's been a crazy fast year so far. Jack is almost 3 and half years old. Bean walks, talks and has graduated to a big boy bed. I have a lovely apartment in a nice enough complex. And a new job, though somedays I feel as though I don't have one at all with only working one day a week for minimum wage. Not exactly the comfy life and often times I find more month at the end of my money, but we're surviving and my little men are growing and that is what matters the most.

Somedays

And then she said to him, "Sweet man of mine, there is a time to hold your tongue and a time to speak your mind. Do you know which this moment happens to be?", as she leaned against the window sill.
He turned with a small smirk and whispered, "To a woman, you always speak the truth. For to her, silence is a mark of betrayal. A woman's mind makes believe your silence proves you guilty."

Lost

Somedays I really wonder what I'm doing. Why I'm here. What is my life about. My head is always full these day with all kinds of thoughts and worries and even a few suspicions, but I can't seem to make sense of any of it. My eyes look, but I do not see. My ears hear, but they do not listen. My hands touch, but they do not feel. It's like I'm floating through everything. Not sure of where I am or why or where I am going.
My heart and emotions feel completely gone the past few days. Nothing exists, but anger. Anger with everyone. I snap or yell or on occasion just open the front door and walk out. I did that today. Just got up in the midst of everything, put some shoes on, and walked right out the door without a word to anyone. I know I'm not fixing anything, probably making things worse to be honest. But I don't know what to do. I feel as though I'm going crazy. There is some sort of huge sadness in me, but no time to cry. No where to cry. No one to cry on. And so instead it's all exchanged for anger. It's not good at all. And the end will probably be incredibly ugly. But I don't know how to stop it or fix it or anything. All I know is that if I could, I'd lay in bed all day. Not speaking. Not moving. Not acknowledging anything at all.

Spidey Sense

I HATE being lied to. HATE, HATE, HATE it! Because when I find out I've been lied to I feel stupid for not knowing and I feel as though the person thinks I'm either not worth being honest to or that I will react dreadfully if I was told the truth. But how many people are more angry to find out that they were wronged AND on top of it, lied to about that wronging? I mean I'll always be less angry if I'm given honesty because that shows at least a little moral fiber.

For whatever reason, we, as humans or mammals or whatever you want to blame it on, learn to adapt to our surroundings. We adjust to the living situations, to the time, to the people around us. Constantly shifting, changing, learning to live in this world. And over my 23 years of life, I have developed a skill in my adaptation. Perhaps skill isn't the right word because I have no control over it. I can not force myself to do it or force myself not to. It just happens. But for whatever reason, I have come to have sort of a "Spidey Sense", if you will. It's this dreadfully heavy burning, churning, nervous, angry feeling in the pit of my stomach. Now you may think I just need to stay away from specific foods and stop imagining that I have superhero powers, but this feeling only comes when someone tells me or a loved one a lie. Not all lies, I'm sure there are little ones that slip past at times. Oh but never the big lies...the big lies are obvious from the moment they're uttered because that feeling starts and just sits there, making me feel sick till I get the truth. And so far in these short little 23 years, it has never been wrong.

Which leaves me unable to decide if I like this intuition of mine. This Spidey Sense for liars. This adaptation to help me survive my surroundings. I mean, yes, I know when I'm being lied to, hooray. BUT at the same time is there not some truth to the saying "Ignorance is bliss"? We can't hurt if we don't realize we've been wronged. We can't feel stupid for not seeing it all before. The things I've found out because of that feeling are some of the most awful things. Things I would love to never know because much like Pandora's box, once they're out there...they are OUT THERE. For eternity. My mind has yet to learn how to "unknow" things. And unfortunately, I'm unsure if it's because I'm smarter than most or liars are just less smart than I am, but their lies usually unravel themselves with no assistance from me. One moment I have this feeling eating away at me and then next thing I know *ding dong* "Truth delivery for Ms. Ferguson". It's like the truth finds its way to me on its own.

That dreadful feeling in the pit of my stomach has never been wrong...and I have it right now. Do I want to know the truth or simply accept that ignorance is bliss? Maybe I can just hope that it's wrong this time...very, very wrong.

Dreams

It doesn't happen often, but on occasion I have very vivid dreams. When I was pregnant with Little Man, it was a repeating dream of being trapped in a maze. I could hear a baby crying louder and louder getting more and more frantic, but every turn in the maze seemed to be a dead end till I'd finally find the baby to only discover it had died in the hours it took me to find it. It was an awful dream to have when you're pregnant at 19 and are terrified of what life holds for you when this baby gets here. Although I'm pretty certain that was WHY I was having that dream. Cause I was alone, young, and had no idea how I was going to manage to take care of a baby when I was just a baby myself.

Almost 2 years ago, I started having this dream where my ex was cheating on me, in this giant cheesy heart shaped bed in front of everyone. Including me. And when I'd confront him the woman would run out, he'd run after, and I'd run after him. She'd leave and I'd catch up to him to ask how he could do that to me and he'd simply state "I never really loved you, I just didn't want to tell you that and hurt you". An awful dream when you're only a year into marriage. The ex would often wake to me smacking him with a magazine or a pillow in my half asleep angry stupor or I'd ask him if he loved me (just making sure) and then make him promise if he ever stopped, I needed him to tell me.

But eventually both those dreams stopped. And other than the occasional random non-sense dream, like a friend who suddenly gained 400 lbs. or my children building me a house out of mashed potatoes, I don't dream often. Until the last 2 nights that is...

And I know exactly why I'm having this one. But this one isn't a nightmare like the other two. This one is pleasant and full of good things, which is scarier than any nightmare because that means my mind thinks that my current life is already the nightmare and it can't come up with worse. Instead it comes up with amazing things to save me from the roughness of reality. It kinda makes me want to sleep as often as possible and hope for that dream to come back...